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As Marriage and Family Therapists, we are specially trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help you resolve conflict and build a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
Premarital Counseling
Premarital Counseling strengthens intimacy, enhances healthy communication, and helps couples discuss important relationship topics as they formalize their commitment to one another. As surprising as it may sound, many partners don’t overtly discuss significant areas of their relationship prior to commitment. These areas can include finances, sex and intimacy, desires to have children, parenting styles, relationships with extended family and friends, desired balance between work/relaxation and time together/independent time, long term goals, to name a few. Premarital counseling will give you support in talking about areas of relational functioning that will strengthen your foundation and provide a healthy template for years to come.
A Tune Up
Sometimes couples get stuck in a rut. They feel distant, unhappy or dissatisfied, and unsure how to move forward successfully. When stuck in a rut, people remember how good their relationship used to feel, but they are unsure how to get that feeling back. This is a good time to come to Couples Therapy! It is far better to get your car in for a tune-up and some routine maintenance than it is to wait a few more years and have to get the engine rebuilt. If there was less stigma associated with seeking therapy, we believe more couples could and would get the support they need sooner. Sometimes, this car metaphor helps couples understand the usefulness of seeking professional help before a total relationship repair is needed. We encourage you to give us a call.
Communication Impasses
Sometimes couples have one (or a handful) of chronic challenges they cannot resolve. Each partner feels hurt, frustrated, and lonely; and, despite multiple attempts to resolve the issues, progress is hard to make. There is help. Couples Therapy will give people the support to understand their chronic arguments in new ways: as attempts to get the closeness and safety with their partner that we all need. From that vantage point, change can and does happen. As couples understand the important emotional needs behind communication impasses, they can respond to their partner in more helpful ways and slowly impasses shift.
Infidelity and Betrayals
When a couple faces infidelity or another significant betrayal in their relationship, they will feel in crisis. Seeking professional support from a therapist trained in helping couples in these situations is an important and healing step to take. Many couples stay together (and find happiness, eventually) after an affair! In fact, the silver lining can be that, if couples are willing to do the work and have appropriate guidance, after a lot of healing is complete, couples can find that a profound transformation has taken place in their relationship. There is help and there is a way through this type of challenge. Please reach out.
Infertility
Couples facing fertility struggles encounter unique stressors. Often both people have many worries, fears, and hopes that preoccupy them or lead them to numb out and disengage. If couples seek medical support for fertility issues, often much of their time, money, and emotional reserve becomes dedicated to the process.
If you find yourself worrying about your partner, yourself, and/or the health of your relationship, please know that Couples Therapy can help. It can provide a contained space to discuss the impact of infertility on your relationship and brainstorm ways to safeguard your relationship from the stressors you are facing. It will help you connect with yourself and how you are personally experiencing the situation; this will help your partner better understand you as well. As each person feels understood, stress decreases and partners can feel support from one another which positively impacts intimacy, resilience, and health.